Pre-Family Life


Here we offer you a range of free-to-download resources that are specifically designed for young adults (ages 18-25) who are either currently in a dating relationship or would like to be. (You can also purchase these from our online store.)

 

They span from the foundational explorations into what dating and marriage truly are, through to the practical outworkings of a dating relationship, and then on to the exciting and often challenging decision on whether or not to get married.

 

You'll also find some helpful little extras in "The Appendix" including a list of great date ideas and a collections of questions to kick off some interesting conversation.

 


Instructions: Simply click on the any of the titles below under DOWNLOAD TO PRINT at the bottom of each section, choose to print double-sided and then fold the lot in half to form your A5 PreFamilyLife booklet.


Note: All studies are in PDF booklet formats. They are upside-down and paginated to make it easy for you to print.



THE FOUNDATION (for singles, couples and groups)  



If you’re dating someone and would like to learn as much as you can to make your relationship as good as it can be, grab a study and get into it!

 

You’ll both need a copy as there are sections where you will answer questions separately.

 

You can work through them by yourselves, just the two of you or...

 

You could also go through these Foundation studies in a Youth Group type setting because you don’t have to be in a relationship to benefit from the 1st three studies featured below.

 


1) Why Marriage?

What is this thing called marriage, and why do we do it? This two-90min-session study will walk you through the purposes God has for marriage, and encourage you to think through your beliefs about marriage.

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2) What is Dating?
There are all kinds of ideas out there about how Christian should or shouldn't date. This one-90min-session study gets underneath all that to look at what the basic purpose of dating is and how we can do it well.


3) Sex and Relationships
What's the difference between purity and innocence? How important is it to pursue these things and battle against temptation? This one-90min-session study will help answer some of these questions as well as paint a grand vision for sex as God intended it.

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1) Why Marriage? 3.3MB
2) What is Dating? 2.6MB
3) Sex and Relationships 3.4MB

PRACTICAL SKILLS (for couples and groups)  



If you’re dating someone and would like to learn as much as you can to make your relationship as good as it can be, grab a study and get into it!

 

You’ll both need a copy as there are sections where you will answer questions separately.

 

You can work through them by yourselves, just the two of you or...

 

You may want to grab a few of your friends who are also in relationships and go through the some studies together as a group of couples (the Practical Skills studies below would be ideal for groups like this).

 

One other thing we encourage you to consider...

 

You can learn a lot from those who are just that stage-of-life beyond our own. Why not ask a couple you respect to mentor you as you go through these studies? You can ask questions as they come up and they can help keep you accountable, offering encouragement as you go.

 


4) The Discovery (Beginning Well)
This one-2hr-session study is about how to get a new dating relationship off to a great start in the midst of all its thrilling and confusing glory!

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5) Communication 1: Understanding

This three-90min-session study is a practical insight into the two major components of understanding another person - listening well and expressing well.

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6) Communication 2: Resolving Conflict
Following on from Communication: Understanding, this three-90min-session study looks at how to effectively resolve conflict in a relationship. Take a look at why conflict and anger happen, how to approach confrontation lovingly, and why forgiveness and reconciliation are so important.


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4) The Discovery (Beginning Well) 3.5MB
5) Communication 1: Understanding 5.7MB
6) Communication 2: Resolving Conflict 3.9MB

THE FUTURE (for couples only)  



If you’re dating someone and would like to learn as much as you can to make your relationship as good as it can be, grab a study and get into it!

 

You’ll both need a copy as there are sections where you will answer questions separately.

 

At some point in a serious relationship the idea of marriage starts to pop up. Should we or shouldn't we? These two studies below are aimed to help couples wisely consider their next step. Both practical and biblical, these are sourced from FamilyLife's Preparing for Marriage book.


7) Evaluating Your Relationship

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8) Making the Marriage Decision

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One other thing we encourage you to consider...

 

You can learn a lot from those who are just that stage-of-life beyond our own. Why not ask a couple you respect to mentor you as you go through these studies? You can ask questions as they come up and they can help keep you accountable, offering encouragement as you go.


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7) Evaluating Your Relationship 2.3MB
8) Making the Marriage Decision 3.7MB

THE APPENDIX (extra little bits)  


Great Date Ideas
Chances are if you're in a relationship, and especially if you're on a budget, you will start to run out of things to do together on dates - other than the requisite "just hanging out". This resource is packed full of cheap, creative and fun dates. Take your pick and enjoy yourselves!

Creative Conversation Questions
One of the best ways to get to know another person, and deepen a friendship, is to ask good questions. This guide has a quick intro into the concept of conversing creatively in your relationship, followed by more than a hundred questions to get you started.

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Great Date Ideas 78.7KB
Creative Conversation Questions 154.5KB